For all you "new" moms (or mom with younger children)..........This article in Momsense magazine is worth sharing. I have tweaked it a bit, simply because I am not that fast at typing! Believe me, I will be the first to admit I need to decide daily to not give in to feeling like my kids will always be in diapers, I will always have someone crawling on me, and I will never have a clean house, friends over for games, or a moment for just "me".
A mom stands at the sink, rinsing off the dishes after a day of willful toddlers or a night of unscheduled waking- discipline, diapers and non-stop being needed. Her beloved comes around for a little nuzzle. And she wants to scream.
A friend recently told me she wished there was a love-and-libido bucket she could scoop from because with 2 kids under 4, she said, "I've got nothing left to give when my husband comes home."
If you know that feeling, try these ideas:
1. Take 5. Take 5 minutes to share something funny, momentous, frustrating, with your husband, even if it seems unimportant. At least you are connecting.
2. Freshen up. Splash your face, brush your teeth, change your shirt that the baby has spit up on 23 times today.
3. Think before you speak. Before you say, "the kids are yours now; I've had it today." Don't. At least make the FIRST thing you say something positive, then ask for his help. Don't demand it.
It is your daily decision to leave the leftovers for eating, and give your husband the fullest portion of yourself that you can (even if that means taking a cat nap on TOP of the laundry pile, or dancing throught the legos in the living room!)
